Moot The Point

We left off messing around with the concept of marriage. Why stop now…?

Let’s Say There is One Perfect Person Out There.

For the sake of argument, in God’s Master Plan, he’s got the “One” picked out for you. No other person will fit so perfectly, no other person will fulfill or satisfy. If you marry the wrong person it will be like eating diet foods for the rest of you’re life – You’ll be miserable, unsatisfied and die of aspartame induced cancer when you’re 43. (I think I officially took that simile too far.)

With me so far? Well neither am I.

Let’s examine more closely the concept of – If there is “The One”, what if you (or they) make a mistake and marry the wrong person? This is a fun question because answering it blows Point “A” from the previous post out of the water. I take great pleasure in doing so.

Imagine with me a scenario. In our little play five men and five women exist on the face of the earth. They all live in Tahiti but that’s beside the point. According to point “A”, God has one perfect and specific person in mind for each of these ten people. Our ten lucky contestants can determine who their future love should be by flipping a coin, casting lots or fleece-casting. It doesn’t matter as long as it can be supernaturally inspired.

Now let’s take one of our ten, let’s name him Ron. Let’s say Ron is a bit of a idiot and he makes a mistake. Instead of following God’s magically inspired signs he chooses on the basis of who looked best in a Tahitian bikini. (I know we’d never be a shallow as it is to let beauty be the sole deciding factor in a decision of this magnitude but bear with me.) So Ron sweet talks Pretty Young Bikini and they run off to the other side of the island and get married. Now we have a problem. Because of Ron and Pretty Young Bikini’s mistake they’ve married the wrong people. So they’ve not only messed up God’s perfect (and specific) plan for their lives, they’ve managed to mess up the lives of the other two God originally planned on hooking up with Ron and Pretty Young Bikini. Four marriages destroyed by two mistakes.

Now pack up that concept in a carry-on bag and transport it to a global scale. If one person marries the wrong “one” then the whole system is messed up. You and I have no chance and finding God’s perfect (and specific) person meant just for us. One mistake throws the whole system into chaos! Whoops.

Now apply our example of marriage to life in general. If there is one perfect (and specific) plan for our lives designed by God then one mistake (by ourselves or others) can throw that entire plan off kilter!

I Can Hear the Objections From Here.

But…but…but…God is smart enough to account for the mistakes and poor decision of Ron, Pretty Young Bikini and everyone else in the world!

True. But now you’re getting back into an arena that removes free will from the human hand. If my mistakes can’t throw of God’s plan and thus mess up my life – then why avoid making them?

The bottom line is this – either we need wisdom. Wisdom we apply to all our lives decisions, including marriage, in order to make better decisions. Or we need better mystical insight with which to determine the mystical signs laid out like bread crumbs from a mystical God. You can’t really have it both ways.

Let’s say that God wants us not to look for more signs but to be better people. To actually exercise the golden rule (even in our marriages!) Maybe God’s perfect (and specific) will for us is that we actually obey the huge “sign” that he wrapped up in a neat little bestseller called the Bible. Do we really need God to “open” and “close” the proverbial doors, when he’s already given us access to all the decision-making tools we’ll ever need?

There’s so much more to talk about – (The role our desires play in God’s will for example) but for no apparent reason we can’t right now. Maybe it’s a sign.